Day 23 ~ I Owe You

Day 23

Jan 23, 2014

My first: I "tried" not to say "I"…or at least not talk about ME.

I started out this day with every intention of not saying “I”. Not so easy! I spoke with the electrician working at my house about the “5 Love Languages” book and I said that I had read it. Other than that, I let him do the talkin’ and it was interesting how much he was sharing with me. He was a very good man…married, children, and church-goin’ too.  And I did this amazing thing…I listened!

At my job that day, I let my client do the talking and only said “I” when it was unavoidable. I spoke with my friend Kelly and almost sounded evasive trying not to say “I”. I told her “Let’s talk about you”. She thought I was hiding something from her and I reminded her of my “first” for the day.

Later on I spoke with my friend Cindy. I hadn't talked with her for quite awhile. She shared her recent car accident experience and we also talked about her job, its long drive and her prospect for a new job in 2015. I shared nothing about me: my “firsts”, my blogs, not drinking in 2014, my room renovation…nothing.

That evening I went to Home Depot to get supplies for my renovation. Well, by that time, I realized that I would have to say “I” so that I could convey what I needed to the various associates.

All in all, it was interesting not talking about me. I realized that conversations are best when both parties share information with neither one dominating or, worse yet, taking too long on their soap box. Again, it is all about balance.