Day 67 ~ A Cast from the Past

Day 67 ~ A Cast from the Past

Mar 8, 2014

My first: In one day, I said yes to three different events that allowed me to spend time with three of my EXs.

Imagine your life as a stage play or a movie. And the cast of characters are those that have impacted your life in some way. They are the ones that have “acted” in the production of your life and collaborated in the writing of your “script”. The importance of their roles in your finale is unquestionable.

On this particular day I had the opportunity to spend time with three of these people from my past that impacted my life. In a cast of the many characters in my life, these three individuals would have top billing.

The first was my ex-fiancé, George. He was in town passing through on his way to his farm in Tennessee. We went to Cracker Barrel and had an hour and a half long breakfast. Let’s just say that we did not have a lack for words the whole time. George and I have met on other occasions when he was en route to Tennessee. We have dined, shared and have even met each other’s children. We have this relationship that budded when we were 19 and neither of us wants to let it go.We remember how and who we were and now we see the “individuals” that we've become. There was a lapse of many years between the break-up and our get-togethers, but we have managed to rekindle our friendship that was always there in our hearts. We are not the same people as in our youth, but we enjoy discovering the “features” that make us who we are today.

Second on my list was my ex-husband, Gary. I was invited to his step-granddaughter’s 8^th birthday party at the local skating rink. We didn't have a chance to talk much there. I was out on the rink, of course! But later that day, we both happened to be at our daughter’s house at the same time. I was there to drop off our grandson Tyler and Gary was there to deliver his dog (for them to watch) and their dog (because Gary had watched him). We sat in the kitchen with Robin and her husband Ross and talked about whatever came to mind. It was nice because it was relaxed and more friendly than usual for some reason. I felt that Robin appreciated having both her parents in her house sharing time with each other and with her. Gary patted me good-bye as he was leaving and I offered a hug to finish it off. There seemed to be this “bygone” mood that enveloped us both and we embraced it.

Third and last was my ex-girlfriend, Maureen. I went over to her apartment to hook up some speakers that I had given her and she made us a wonderful dinner. It was just the two of us…very friendly and familiar. She and I have been good friends now for several years. We broke up at the start of ’98 and after our 8 ½ year relationship, it took some time to reach out to each other and salvage the friendship between us. We share a lot and constantly bounce things off each other. She is definitely the one I am closest to today from this “cast” of three. She and I will be friends ‘til the end.

So here is my take on this “cast from the past” day that I experienced. It is twofold: the people that link us to our past are the ones that composed our present in some way and the greatest gift to others is to spend time. And unexpectedly it becomes the best gift to YOURSELF!